Why You Should Never Go To Bed Angry
I was often reminded by my (now ex-)husband that the Bible warns us not to go to bed angry. I usually replied with “I have to, I can’t stay up all night.” If he made me mad early in the day I (sometimes) had time to get over it but it was especially hard when he made me good and angry late at night. I didn’t understand how anger differed from morning to night. All I knew was that he didn’t quote this because of his devout beliefs. He knew he was wrong and this admonition was his only hope of avoiding my wrath. When I came across the scripture recently, I decided to study it a little deeper.
Found in Ephesians 4:26-27, the passage states Be angry, and do not sin: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil. First of all, I see that I am commanded to be angered with certain conditions and with certain people. We should not be accepting of everything that goes on around us. We should not be neutral and let people push us around. However, we should react carefully and without sin. We must make a quick decision about the correct way to handle our anger. That is something I have struggled with over the years. I have learned the hard way that if we express our anger we are creating more pain and suffering in ourselves than in others. (But I am learning new methods which I will be talking about soon, after my study is complete.)
The reason that we should not carry our negative emotions into the night is because the anger will have time to take root in us. Many times we will lay in bed and replay the event in our head, often morphing our face in contempt at the other party. Then we marinate in our subconscious as we sleep. Unresolved anger becomes malice which can not exist in a peaceful heart. To forgive and forget is the better option, releasing us from the drain of holding a grudge and setting us free to love and laugh again. When the wrong is corrected, there should be no animosity. Harboring hatred and sinful feelings gives the devil an advantage in our lives. Deal with your anger quickly and decisively so the devil can't get a foothold. No matter how you feel, you can choose to forgive and walk in love.