Change Your Mind, Change Your Life
It was a cold winter night and I was about to go home from a job that I disliked very much. After walking the entire length of the parking lot and shivering and shaking, I realized the office keys were still in my pocket. Those keys had to be left inside for the other shifts to use. I angrily slammed my door and started trudging back toward the building while asking myself "Why can't you do anything right?" Then I stopped myself and said "Good job, Kim. I'm so glad you found those keys before driving all the way home with them!" This didn't change my life but it did make me feel a little better about myself.
Do you say those mean things to yourself? "I can't do anything right. I'm so stupid. I just can't do this." If so, then it's not surprising if you frequently experience and accept failure. Your subconscious mind will accept anything you tell it and make it your reality. That's why it is so important to build yourself up rather than tear yourself down. Right now is the time to change our damaging self talk. I want you to catch yourself every time you start to speak any negative statement and then turn it into a compliment. We all need a little praise every now and then. Why not give it freely and often? Negative thoughts are the most overlooked symptom of depression while positive thoughts release endorphins and serotonin in our brain making us feel good.
I'd like to share another experience with you that actually was a life changer for me. I had wanted to change careers in an effort to enjoy my life more but was completely against going back to school to further my education. I said "I can't do that! I work full time and have a family to raise and support." I did check into the college program but without much hope. When I realized how easy it was to get financial aid and enroll, I decided to give it a try but was constantly telling myself "If it gets to be too much, you can just drop out." What kind of encouragement is that??? I continued this behavior until I started learning about the power of positive thinking in one of my college classes. In this class we set goals for our education and our future. It was during this class that I decided I could and would make straight A's and graduate with honors.
Luckily this was a 15 month program rather than 2 or 4 years but it was tough nonetheless. I would get up at 6 AM to get ready for work. I would leave work in the afternoon and drive straight to school which was an hour away. Then I would get home from school at about 11 PM. This is when I would do homework or study for tests. On the weekend, I had to work in the clinic at the school. When I felt worn out and run down, I would remind myself it was just for a short period of time and I was going to be an honor student. When I would take a lunch break from work, I would study for tests. I had to utilize every minute of my time productively because I was going to be an honor student. I reminded myself daily that it would all be worth it in the end because I was going to be an honor student.
During this 15 month period, I got married, my first grandbaby was born and I lost my dad. There were many times I felt like throwing in the towel. But I had told myself so often that I was going to make straight A's that it truly had become my reality. Nothing could change it. I had a final exam to take on the evening after my dad's funeral. It was the last day of classes for the quarter and if I missed that exam I would have a bad final grade for the class. I could have easily said "I can't do this." No one would have even doubted me or thought bad of me if I gave up on that day. But my dad wouldn't have wanted me to give up. Also, my subconcious now believed that I was an honor student and it wouldn't allow me to exhibit any behavior other than honor student behavior. So I made it to school and I took that final exam. Six months later I graduated from college with a 4.0 GPA and a member of Alpha Beta Kappa. In previous years I would never have believed that that could happen. But I saw firsthand that anything is possible. If you believe it, you can do it.
If you don't encourage yourself, who will? In fact, why limit yourself to compliments and encouragement only when you need it? Build yourself up daily with affirmations or a mantra. Just imagine what all you could accomplish with your subconcious as your biggest cheerleader instead of your biggest critic. If you promise not to laugh, I will tell you my daily mantra. Promise? OK... "I AM FEARLESS AND FREE. I AM BEAUTIFUL AND HEALTHY. MONEY COMES TO ME EASILY AND EFFORTLESSLY." I repeat this because if these are my beliefs, they will become my reality.
Dream it, believe it, do it!
Written in 2016